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This is a true story. I was on a bus one day on my own, and a woman happened to sit next to me. I really loved the smell of her perfume. The fact that she was also young and attractive did not go unnoticed!

She did have a boyfriend, as was quite clear by her conversation into her mobile phone. I was dating Sarah at the time, anyway, so I was not looking to date her. I’d like to point out that I’m not in the habit of listening to people’s private conversations, but when someone is sitting next to you on the bus, taking into a phone, it’s difficult to ignore the conversation.

When she got off the phone, I told her that I really liked the smell of her perfume, and asked her what it was. You should have seen her face light up! She spent a bit of time trying to remember which one it was, and then told me. It was Deep Red, by Hugo Boss. I had a piece of paper on me, and I wrote it down, and eventually bought some for Sarah.

Do you see what happened here? I started a conversation by delivering an unusual compliment. It wasn’t exactly a compliment, either; it was an implied compliment, the implication being simply that I thought she had great taste in perfume, but I left that unsaid. I’ll bet that girl was on cloud nine for the rest of the day!

If I had wanted to continue the conversation, I could have asked her what other perfumes she had tried, and if there was any that she could recommend. By listening, I could have seen if there was any way the conversation could have developed. For example, if she had said, “I’ve also tried Secret Wish by Anna Sui,” I could have asked her which one was better. If she had said, “I like Secret Wish. It reminds me of the smell of fruit,” I could have asked her which fruits she likes, and perhaps where she gets them. Whereas the questions would not have been brilliantly insightful, it certainly would have continued the conversation.

The other good thing about leading with an opener like this is that you’re showing that you are at least aware of some things about women. Anyone who’s ever opened a woman’s magazine knows that perfume is very important to women. It’s a good idea to at least know something about aftershave, as well, so that you can come across as informed if you are asked about your taste in aftershave in a return question. Most men do not pay attention to such subtle details, so you will get a head start if you make it clear that you do!

It’s also possible to use this opener even if the girl isn’t wearing perfume. In a Friends episode, Joe comments to a girl he was “hitting on” that there was a nice smell, and asks her what she was wearing. She leaned in towards him and said, in a sexy tone of voice, “Nothing!” It was a good sitcom joke, and stuck in my mind; I bet there are plenty of girls that have seen that episode, and thought of replying in exactly the same way if they were asked that question! You could perhaps up your flirting game a bit, and get a bit cheeky with someone who replies like that!