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I’ve tried this dating profile out on LoopyLove, so I thought I’d present it here as a sample. The interface tells me that five girls have viewed my profile. Two of those viewers have each sent me a message, and I haven’t even uploaded a picture to go with the profile!

A 40% rate of response from your dating profile really is incredible when you’re dealing with online dating agencies. When I was actually trying to generate interest some years ago, I didn’t get anybody sending me messages, and I sent about 20 messages to different girls. I have come to the conclusion that I have become a much more interesting person than I was at the time. In a way, it’s a shame that I’m only doing this for research now!

The dating profile is as follows:

The tag line: “Isn’t it time you found a man of mystery?”

The description: “With interests in martial arts, dancing, clarinet playing and flying, you could do worse than to get to know this software engineer! Cool, suave and sophisticated are the watch words. Dubbed as the next Johnny English, er… James Bond by his friends, you’re sure not to go far wrong by clicking through lots of ads to send him a message! Be quick, because he’s sure to be snapped up soon by the millions of women here!”

Right, let’s look at what I’ve done:

1. The tag line is the first thing people see on this particular dating site. You want to get them to click through and view your profile. There are probably more successful tag lines, but this one ties in quite well with the profile.

2. I have not used the word “I” in the dating profile. Instead, I’ve decided to talk about myself in the third person, and I’ve used the word “you” a great deal more than will be seen in your average profile. Who is the one person you’re most interested in? It’s yourself.

3. The dating profile is short, snappy, and to-the-point. Nobody’s going to read an essay, however interesting you think you are!

4. I have listed some interests that girls would especially find interesting. With regards martial arts, the attraction is obvious. Girls like to know their man can take care of himself! Secondly, dancing. Plenty of girls really enjoy to dance, but it’s a skill that many men won’t pluck up the courage to try. I actually play a wide variety of musical instruments, including the keyboard, saxophone and drums, but I think the clarinet has the most romantic, warm sound of all these instruments. Lots of people may choose to write about the saxophone at this point. Finally, what girl could resist a date with a pilot? I haven’t actually stated that I am a pilot (in actual fact, I am a trainee pilot), but I could equally well be someone who enjoys travelling a lot, which would also be very attractive.

5. Many girls are not interested in geeky software engineers, but I’ve written about my hobbies that show I’m a well-rounded person who has other interests besides programming. Also, software engineers do pull in a respectable amount of money. Girls are partly looking for someone who is financially secure, and this goes some way to showing that this is the case. Finally, by writing about something that may not appeal to girls that much, I’ve given some credence to the dating profile, and have essentially suggested that I’m telling the truth in it.

6. I have relied on humour in the dating profile. In case you don’t know, Johnny English is a James Bond spoof film, where the main character, played by Rowan Atkinson, is a complete idiot! The part about clicking through lots of ads is specific to LoopyLove, which is an online dating agency where you can choose not to pay for the service if, instead, you view advertising emails that they send you, and visit the advertised websites. You earn credits by doing this, and once you have enough credits, you can send someone a message.

7. I am lucky to be a skilled writer. There are no spelling mistakes or problems with grammar that I am aware of in the above dating profile. If you are not very good at writing, you can quite easily check for these by writing your profile in Word for Windows, and checking spelling and grammar. Even better would be to have someone who is good at writing look over your profile for you!

You have to think like an advertiser, but you also have to try to paint an honest picture of yourself, and your profile should be a mixture of these two elements. Think what makes you attractive; perhaps ask your friends; and then write about it! Put in some of the elements that I’ve used, such as humour, and you’re sure to get results!