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Supermarkets aren’t just for picking up groceries! You can pick up potential dates as well. You need to know a few things about shopping for girls or guys at the supermarket before you start, though.

First thing, if you’re going right in and asking for a date, the rejection rate is going to be huge. That’s why you have to know what to look for, so that you can reduce that rejection rate and make things a bit easier for yourself. The list includes the following:

1. Wedding ring or engagement ring. Worn on the third finger of the left hand, it indicates that the person is already in a committed relationship. You can of course talk to them, but don’t expect to be shredding the sheets with them!

2. Anybody they came in with. If there are no obvious signs of anybody else, it’s safe to proceed, but do bear in mind that they could have come in with a special person that has gone somewhere else in the shop to pick something up.

3. What they have in their trolley or basket. Somebody stocking up on nappies is likely to be a mother in a relationship! Someone who has bought lots of frozen ready-meals is far less likely to have a family. In fact, it may be a good idea to wander around the frozen food aisles.

4. What is the time? The best times for supermarket flirting are after work and the weekend. Most people won’t have time to flirt at lunch time as they have a deadline to get back to work. However, once work is over, it’s a different story!

Now you have to know what techniques to use, and these will be broadly similar whether you’re male or female.

• Put yourself in his/her place. How would you like to be approached? If you’re a girl and a guy came up and asked you to go out with him, you’d only agree if you were desperate. If you’re a guy and a girl came up and asked you to go out with her, you’d think she was too easy. This technique clearly won’t work, so don’t do it!
• To open, you could ask a question. Perhaps you are a shortish girl, and you want somebody to reach for something? It’s fine as an opener, but do realise that you will have to quickly conjure up something to continue the conversation! Chances are your motive will be displayed on a big neon sign when you carry on the conversation, but that may not be a bad thing, especially if he fancies you! Maybe you could ask something like, “Sorry to bother you, but what’s your opinion of that frozen chicken tikka masala?” as they pick it up. Or perhaps something like, “What lovely nails! I’ve never seen nails like those before. Where do you go to have them done?” Of course, check to see that she does have good nails before you ask something like that!
• People don’t usually come to the supermarket to flirt. If you both did, that’s fine! If not, realise that it may take a few sentences before people pick up on the fact that you wish to make conversation with them, let alone flirt with them. This is just something to bear in mind.
• If the conversation starts to run out of steam, but you would still like to see them again, you’ve got nothing to lose by asking immediately for a date. Make it something light, that would be nice and easy to agree to, like lunch somewhere, or arrange to meet up for a cup of coffee at a local coffee house. The chances are low that you will succeed with this approach, but if you do get rejected then it’s unlikely that the rejection will be harsh. Always remember that it’s their loss if they decide not to go out with you.

I was once asked by a girl in the supermarket about wines. The conversation went something like this:

“Excuse me, do you know what wine would go well with beef?”

Looking up, I said, “I’m sorry, I don’t know much about wine.” At this point, I expected the conversation to finish.

“I don’t know much about wine either!” she said.

“Right,” I said, broke eye contact, and returned to my shopping.

I thought about the conversation later, and it was then clear to me that because the girl continued with the conversation after it had dried up, she was actually being friendly! It may have been the start of an attempt to pick me up! If it was, the fact that it failed had more to do with how I felt at the time than anything to do with her, because I had just come out of a long-term relationship, and was not seeking to get with anyone else at the time. The point is that you should not be discouraged by things like this. If you get a rejection, or you can’t sustain the conversation, don’t worry about it. There are three billion people of the opposite sex in the world, so just move on to the next one!