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Published by the BBC, this book is a companion to the BBC TV series “Would Like To Meet.” The book is written by the three experts on the TV programme. In the hour-long programme, how one person flirts and dates is analysed, and the faults are corrected over a period of six weeks. The book contains advice on body language and flirting, dating style (your appearance), and confidence and communication.

This book is aimed at the person who wants to break into the dating scene after some time, possibly years of inactivity. The typical reader who will benefit from this book will be somebody without much experience at dating, or possibly someone who has considerable experience at the first stages of dating but finds that they have problems near the start of a relationship.

The first chapter, “Body Language and Flirting,” is written by Tracey Cox, an expert on sex and relationships, and author and TV presenter. In terms of body language, she tells you what signs to look for in your dates, and what you should be doing and not doing with your body, arms, legs and face. Many of the concepts are not just valid in dating scenarios, but will also help you in other areas of your life if you follow them. She then gives two separate guides on flirting, one for boys and one for girls, and also tells you how to handle those occasions where you’re not interested in somebody who has met you without being rude.

The second chapter, “Dating Style,” is written by Jay Hunt, a TV producer and stylist. You are told how to assess your body image, how to use clothes to disguise less desirable features about your body, and how to organise your wardrobe in terms of which clothes look good and which look bad. You are also given advice on what to look for and even how to shop for new clothes that will suit you. Your hair style will be put under the microscope, along with how to take care of your teeth, nails and face. For girls, how to apply make-up and what make-up to use is discussed. Finally, how to prepare for your dates is revealed. In my opinion, most of the contents of this chapter would be just as relevant in ten years time as they are now, although, of course, fashions do change over time.

The third chapter, “Confidence and Communication,” is written by Jeremy Milnes, a trained actor, drama teacher and communication, confidence and assertiveness tutor. The characteristics of confident people are shown, then you get a mini-course in beating shyness and boosting self-confidence. Becoming more confident is partly about trying new things and taking risks, and you are guided in ways of achieving this. Training your voice to make it interesting is discussed, along with a large section on small talk, including topics to avoid.

Each chapter starts with a 20-question multiple-choice quiz that gives you an idea of how good you are at each skill. You may know where your failings lie already, but it’s still worth taking each quiz to see if there’s anything you’ve missed in your personal assessment of your abilities. I would suggest that you record your score so that you can refer to it sometime later, having taken the test again.

In terms of how the book has helped me, the main chapter that I found useful was the one on communication and confidence. I was confident in certain areas of my life before having the book, but dating was not one of them. I also found the dating style section useful, and I have a far keener sense of fashion than I previously had. I already knew quite a bit about body language from other books when I read this one, so I couldn’t honestly say that part of the book helped me a great deal, but it does help to point out what’s important for dating body language.

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